Weddings My first wedding!! 10/8/2022

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DJ Forbes

DJ Extraordinaire
Jul 30, 2021
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It finally happened! Just 1 year and 1 day after my equipment arrived and I decided I wanted to try dj'ing, I did my first solo wedding. (I've done several others while working for the company that helped me get my feet wet, but those were mainly just helping set up, tear down, and maybe playing a few songs while the primary dj took a potty break).

This was a pretty small reception in a small, older venue. Setup was easy and I was ready to go about an hour before guests arrived (that's my plan so I can allow for the unexpected). Cocktail hour and dinner went smooth. They had more guests show up than expected so they had to set up tables on the dance floors to accommodate everyone for dinner. Relocating guests and tearing down tables after dinner caused a little blip in my timeline but I just went with the flow, communicated with the photographer and bride/groom, and kept things moving.

I've got a handful of messages and texts thanking me and saying how happy different people were and I had several folks ask me for cards during the event.

The Bad:
1. I made the announcement for the cake cutting. It was kind of set back in a corner, and I still had some soft quiet music playing and nobody was paying attention to the bride and groom, so the couple asked me to announce it again.... still no response. They had to ask me a second time... that time I killed the music and asked for everyone to please turn their focus to the bride and groom.... that worked. It was a learning point for me. Totally not a big deal to anyone else, but I'll never forget it.
2. One of my wireless dmx dongles died on one of my wash lights about an hour before the reception ended. I had a spare, but it was in a spot that wasn't easy to get to so I left it. It turns out, that wash light jus stayed on the UV color step I had programmed, and the other one was doing it's thing... so it sort of worked out. Small area, so one was plenty bright enough, and the UV added a little bit of cool factor... so they thought it was by design. lol.

Overall, it was a really good day. I was told ahead of time there wouldn't be much dancing except for the bride and her friends. I had the dance floor full for slow songs and a few dance songs, but about 70% of folks left right after dinner... so I didn't expect much. They had a good time, I had a good time, and they were all very happy. I guess that's about as much as I can ask for. Next wedding is in 2 weeks!
 
Kudos on you doing your first wedding. Way to go champ. I would like to see some pictures if possible. I say it that way because the client may not allow you to take pictures or video.
 
Kudos on you doing your first wedding. Way to go champ. I would like to see some pictures if possible. I say it that way because the client may not allow you to take pictures or video.
This wasn't a twelve step program Nacho.
 
It finally happened! Just 1 year and 1 day after my equipment arrived and I decided I wanted to try dj'ing, I did my first solo wedding. (I've done several others while working for the company that helped me get my feet wet, but those were mainly just helping set up, tear down, and maybe playing a few songs while the primary dj took a potty break).

This was a pretty small reception in a small, older venue. Setup was easy and I was ready to go about an hour before guests arrived (that's my plan so I can allow for the unexpected). Cocktail hour and dinner went smooth. They had more guests show up than expected so they had to set up tables on the dance floors to accommodate everyone for dinner. Relocating guests and tearing down tables after dinner caused a little blip in my timeline but I just went with the flow, communicated with the photographer and bride/groom, and kept things moving.

I've got a handful of messages and texts thanking me and saying how happy different people were and I had several folks ask me for cards during the event.

The Bad:
1. I made the announcement for the cake cutting. It was kind of set back in a corner, and I still had some soft quiet music playing and nobody was paying attention to the bride and groom, so the couple asked me to announce it again.... still no response. They had to ask me a second time... that time I killed the music and asked for everyone to please turn their focus to the bride and groom.... that worked. It was a learning point for me. Totally not a big deal to anyone else, but I'll never forget it.
2. One of my wireless dmx dongles died on one of my wash lights about an hour before the reception ended. I had a spare, but it was in a spot that wasn't easy to get to so I left it. It turns out, that wash light jus stayed on the UV color step I had programmed, and the other one was doing it's thing... so it sort of worked out. Small area, so one was plenty bright enough, and the UV added a little bit of cool factor... so they thought it was by design. lol.

Overall, it was a really good day. I was told ahead of time there wouldn't be much dancing except for the bride and her friends. I had the dance floor full for slow songs and a few dance songs, but about 70% of folks left right after dinner... so I didn't expect much. They had a good time, I had a good time, and they were all very happy. I guess that's about as much as I can ask for. Next wedding is in 2 weeks!
Congrats on your first wedding! As far as issue #1... it has more to do with projection as opposed to having music in the background. If you were to ever witness my introductions or mc'ing there is rarely a point in the night, outside of a toast, where there isn't music in the background. Whether it is intros, introducing someone, announcing something, I always have something going on as I hate complete silence. Of course, the volume is relatively low when I speak, like a 3 or 4 out of 10 on the fader.

How do I make sure I am heard and that people know what's happening... One... as Rick said, projection... I make sure i am loud... not screaming... but loud. Secondly, I NEVER say the actual thing I want to say without actually getting the attention of the crowd first. So for example, if I was to announce cake cutting after dinner, I would first say "ladies and gentlemen, I hope you all had an opportunity to enjoy your wonderful main course." before segwaying into "I'd like to now turn your attention to the center of the dancefloor (or wherever the cake is), as "so and so" are about to continue with their cake cutting." By saying that first part, while totally unnecessary, I get the attention of all the guests, before actually making the real announcement. Instead of using your voice to get their attention, You got the attention by killing the music... which shouldn't always be a necessity.

I don't stop there, I reiterate what is happening by saying something like "for those of you that would like to capture this special moment, feel free to grab your cell phones or camera and join us by our cake... just make sure you're standing behind our professional photographer/videographer so they get the best shot. Once again, we ask for your attention as our cake cutting is now beginning". Again... by the time I'm done saying everything, the guests know something important is happening.
 
Thank you all. I knew going into this business my biggest weakness and area I need the most work is my emcee work. I have gotten past the "I think my voice sounds weird" phase... now I'm in the "extreme overthink what I'm about to say phase" which causes me to not speak as clearly as I like. I think you're all spot on with the projection of voice as opposed to just being loud. Also, @djtaso , good advice with the attention getting first. In the military, all commands are led with a "preparatory command". For example, they will never just say "Attention"... you get a preparatory command first... "Platoon..... Attention". Your method is doing the same thing... getting their ears ready for the important part to come. I'll remember that.

Thank you all again for the feedback. I'm looking forward to trying to be better for the next one!
 
I friend of mine has changed from "ladies and gentlemen" to "hello everyone" as a guest was recently offended by the L+G mention as he/she said they were neither. What the heck has happened to society???

You've GOT to be kidding (although I know you're not). My "ladies and gentlemen" will NOT be changing. Anyone getting offended can just bite my ankle.