No. the alternator only puts out as much power as is being drawn from it. So practically nothing sitting still at a traffic light, a lot more if you just started it (draining the batt) and running lights, trailer lights, stereo, TV in the back for the kids, etc.
If you have a small portable genset you can hear this for yourself - start and run it with no load, now add a load, say a drill or hedge clippers under load, maybe your whole DJ setup - and the engine will rev and change sound as the load increases.
Talked with a full time RVr with one of those 40' motor homes..he has 'one side all 110v' - meaning household fridge, microwave, washer/dryer etc. He has FOUR deep cycle batts in 'the basement' and says that can the appliances for 8 hours.
When he's running his genset, 2 A/c units and the 110v stuff he uses nearly a gallon of fuel an hour.
His previous camper used 2 of the honda 2000's and he had extended run tank for them as well - when running the a/c and such he'd get 13 hours out of the THREE tanks..
So yeah, the load on there will wear things out.
I'm really kinda curious how fast this would drain a stand-alone, deep cell battery (with an alternator). As for a car's alternator, I'm not sure I see how it would cause any extra strain on the unit. Don't alternator put out a huge number of amps normally? Yes, you're running your car for 4-5 hours, but I really don't see that as being an exceptional wear and tear issue, as it's only happening a few times per year.
Lots of inexpensive gensets out there. the honda is 'the' one, but there are others. I got a 1700w from costco and used it on my hedges (put it in the trailer and no need to drag a 150' of extension around to do the hedges, and ran a drill for the same reason. Cost me $450 at costco.
I don't see mine for sale anymore (home depot had a camo version for $700). but there are LOTS of choices...
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