Wow, great discussion (and I found myself agreeing with Bob a lot????????)...
That Rane document is a life-saver, and is a standard in the industry-- download or bookmark it. One other tip (simple) pertaining to Rick's original question that I've found helpful (that I didn't see anyone mention): Always go with an attenuated signal (on the lower end, rather than near "yellow" or "red") when trying out a possible crazy mismatch like this. Whether it's a line/mic level thing, or impedance mismatch, or both, or just an improperly set gain on the other guy's mixer, starting out extremely conservative when feeding like that is always a good idea. When you are using multiple mixer/fader and input/output sections, it becomes critical, as the possibility of mismatch goes up exponentially with each connection. Way back in the day, I worked in radio, and I was always taught to send everything from the channels and the main output pretty hot (peaking near "zero" on a standard VU). An experienced engineer taught me to look at things differently-- "Don't set yourself up for distortion from the get-go," he said. "What do you mean?", says I. "You're a musician; think," he replied. "How do guitar players set-up distortion on their amps?" By overdriving the input, and adjusting the output volume to taste, I thought to myself, and then it clicked, and I have mixed differently from that day hence. You don't need to know all of the math to know that "less is more" in most situations.
To TwinSpin's issue, I'd agree that going with your own set-up (eschewing house sound entirely) would be better; that gives you all of the control. If they go for that, it's a simple fix. The issue becomes a major problem if they tell you that you must patch into their system. We used to play a club like that years ago, and the guy had all of this cobbled together antiquated crap, but he always (week after week) blamed the bands and their equipment when things went bad. He refused to entertain the idea that his stuff was crap that was wired wrong...
GJ