Agreed. I've met a few people online who I consider good friends even though we've never met in person. They often times know more about what's going on in my life then my 'in person' friends.
Knowing what's going on in your life makes them an acquaintance, not a friend.
Friends are the people who are present with you and actually participate in your life. That I think is where people over-estimate the relationships they have online. As I said - most people are lucky to have just one or two real friends.
Someone is not my friend just because they know something about me. Plenty of acquaintance know something about me. Facebook for example, will tell you plenty about someone - that's still a very long way from "friend."
As far as building a romantic relationship online. I don't buy into it. I'm not saying it cannot happen but you don't get the whole picture when you're only communicating with someone via Skype or Face Time. Often when you meet in person you realize there are whole other dimensions to these people and you may or may not like their other qualities.
That's a total contradiction to your previous comment. If you can truly develop a friendship online then you can most certainly develop intimacy online - so, which is it? Do real relationships require material participation in one's life or not?
Online, people fall in love with the
idea of someone - I think the same can be said of purely online friendships that never move beyond the computer screens.
No one is doubting that technology is a good way to keep in touch over distances - but, I can guarantee that when a friend you have now moves away - each of you will also
move on if the only way you ever contact each other is online. Friendships like any relationship do not survive a lack of participation - which is what is always missing from online relationships.
Friends are people who know your family and you know theirs. You know how they treat their family and are comfortable with how they treat yours. You know if they are selfish or selfless, and character is something you see each other practice - not something you simply talk about online. You share and participate in each others lives - participation that is much more than just conversation. In fact, there are times they need not say anything at all.
Consider the chat participants who have died over the years. For those referred to as friends - how many of you attended their funeral? Acquaintances may or may not show up at your funeral - friends, just like family always attend. To be friendly and acquainted with someone is not the same as being friends, at leas not in the real meaning of the word.