Weddings Was offered $1k to play Fly Me to the moon.
- Thread starter Briar
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What?? What did I say now???? 
Besides, it's not like he asked you to play the Chicken Dance... done right and tastefully, this would simply serve as a transition to ROTATE the dance floor rather than kill it. For amny other guests his age/demographic - assuming there were any that is - this would have been a much welcome transition to be well received.
Plenty of time left in the night to build the young ones back into a frenzy.
It only turns into a disaster, something to be "ashamed of" or something to draw attention or upset your clients if you let it.
I'm willing to bet a lot (let's say $1000) that everyone here - the dj who decided NOT to do it included - could have / would have pulled off this transition in a way that wouldn't have phased anyone at all.
After all - the guy with the money (at least as the story was told) didn't demand as a condition that it had to be a straight fader-slam from one song into the next... Let's think creatively here... Don't we all like to fancy ourselves as being good at that sort of thing? LOL:tribiggrin:
Plenty of time left in the night to build the young ones back into a frenzy.
It only turns into a disaster, something to be "ashamed of" or something to draw attention or upset your clients if you let it.
I'm willing to bet a lot (let's say $1000) that everyone here - the dj who decided NOT to do it included - could have / would have pulled off this transition in a way that wouldn't have phased anyone at all.
After all - the guy with the money (at least as the story was told) didn't demand as a condition that it had to be a straight fader-slam from one song into the next... Let's think creatively here... Don't we all like to fancy ourselves as being good at that sort of thing? LOL:tribiggrin:
from what I gathered was the new style mashup first dance style scratch into the song and it would have likely pissed off some if not all of the guests or they would have easily looked at Bob like he screwed up. It could have great reprecussion on a future opportunity. Like Rick Ryan mentioned in another thread we never know who is watching. Even who might see you taking money from the guy. Im not a puppet atleast to any one other than my Client as far as being told what or what not to do despite a money bribe.
Only the bride and groom have the power to tell me to change the song immediately, and even then, I've only had that happen with either the occasional drunk bride who is kidding around or one who can wait until the end of the song.
As I reviewed this thread, I was amused at how many would actually have taken the money and changed it up.
If this situation had ever hit me at a wedding reception, I'd simply look at Jon (J Mac), he'd look at me, and we'd both be thinking the same thing: Absolutely not.
When I play a song, I play it for a reason. If the bride and groom and 70+ other people are having fun, why change it up? $1000, $1M, not even $1B would do it for me. In my opinion, the guy can keep his money, the request will be written down, and I will try to work it in if it's not on the DO NOT PLAY list. Plain and simple.
EDIT: What I mean is this: I will not be bought out.
As I reviewed this thread, I was amused at how many would actually have taken the money and changed it up.
If this situation had ever hit me at a wedding reception, I'd simply look at Jon (J Mac), he'd look at me, and we'd both be thinking the same thing: Absolutely not.
When I play a song, I play it for a reason. If the bride and groom and 70+ other people are having fun, why change it up? $1000, $1M, not even $1B would do it for me. In my opinion, the guy can keep his money, the request will be written down, and I will try to work it in if it's not on the DO NOT PLAY list. Plain and simple.
EDIT: What I mean is this: I will not be bought out.
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On the other hand, I am a whore! I normally won't take "tips or bribes" (in the $5 to $50 range but when it gets to the $100 to $500 range (has never happened and I don't ever expect it too) I am going to let everyone see how fast I can drop my pants!
Someone holds out an equal amount to drop in "FLY ME TO THE MOON" song for what I am getting paid for the whole night (considering the song of course, the song in question is actually very popular amoung the 20's and 30's crowd today) I am going to drop it in a heart beat, and i will pick back up the previous set when the song is completed and have an extra $1000 in my pocket at the end of the night!
Someone holds out an equal amount to drop in "FLY ME TO THE MOON" song for what I am getting paid for the whole night (considering the song of course, the song in question is actually very popular amoung the 20's and 30's crowd today) I am going to drop it in a heart beat, and i will pick back up the previous set when the song is completed and have an extra $1000 in my pocket at the end of the night!
It would not have ended a Fly me to the moon... This tool would have thought he owned you for the rest of the night, and would keep bugging you bringing up the "I just gave you 1000 dollars" business. You would not want to cater to his every whim, and next thing you know, it's a distraction, and taking away from the bride and groom's event.
This is why I have a "no tipping"policy. I charge enough at the get go. I don't want or need anyone's extra cash. The perception that dj's need to be tipped is embarrassing. You don't tip your mechanic, or a roofer, or your dentist... Being a tip whore just furthers the image that all dj's are just part time folks tryin to make extra money on the weekends. A club dj working for $100 a night... I have no problem with... A dj at a corporate event, wedding, or other event?...
Ugh!
This is why I have a "no tipping"policy. I charge enough at the get go. I don't want or need anyone's extra cash. The perception that dj's need to be tipped is embarrassing. You don't tip your mechanic, or a roofer, or your dentist... Being a tip whore just furthers the image that all dj's are just part time folks tryin to make extra money on the weekends. A club dj working for $100 a night... I have no problem with... A dj at a corporate event, wedding, or other event?...
Ugh!
It is a tricky situation. Don't get me wrong.
If you're good at what you do then you can pull it off. Yes, depends on the situation. Sounds to Go, we would work great together. Seems like people on here don't like to take a chance. Fly me to the moon is a great song. Be creative and make it work. If it's not on the do not play list then no harm done and you have $500 or $1000 or even $1001 more than you had. To me it shows how talented you are. I would take that challenge and run with it... and the $$$.
Will the guy come back and bother you some more?... probably. The same thing happens when someone with a $5 bill comes up to you and asks for a song and still bothers you throughout the night even though you decline their offer and still played their song. It has to be made clear to the guy with the $ that it's a one time deal... not easy...i know.
Leave me alone for the rest of the night and no backsies. Hahaha :tribiggrin:
If you're good at what you do then you can pull it off. Yes, depends on the situation. Sounds to Go, we would work great together. Seems like people on here don't like to take a chance. Fly me to the moon is a great song. Be creative and make it work. If it's not on the do not play list then no harm done and you have $500 or $1000 or even $1001 more than you had. To me it shows how talented you are. I would take that challenge and run with it... and the $$$.
Will the guy come back and bother you some more?... probably. The same thing happens when someone with a $5 bill comes up to you and asks for a song and still bothers you throughout the night even though you decline their offer and still played their song. It has to be made clear to the guy with the $ that it's a one time deal... not easy...i know.
Leave me alone for the rest of the night and no backsies. Hahaha :tribiggrin:
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Steve,
The "tool" just handed you $1000, if he wants to come up and do it again for another $1000 it is no problem!
This is different from the woo woo girl who comes up every five minutes with another "this is the greatest song in the world and everybody will dance too it" request?
This is different from the drunk uncle who comes up and demands that you play "Bluegrass" the rest of the night?
There are tip whore DJs and there are high classed call DJs the difference is in the price they will sell for but both are still whores!
But that is all beside the point here, we are talking about a one time deal to drop one song in, not about being owned the client already has that distinction!
The "tool" just handed you $1000, if he wants to come up and do it again for another $1000 it is no problem!
This is different from the woo woo girl who comes up every five minutes with another "this is the greatest song in the world and everybody will dance too it" request?
This is different from the drunk uncle who comes up and demands that you play "Bluegrass" the rest of the night?
There are tip whore DJs and there are high classed call DJs the difference is in the price they will sell for but both are still whores!
But that is all beside the point here, we are talking about a one time deal to drop one song in, not about being owned the client already has that distinction!
I hear ya, there's just something slimy about the situation. It would have been interesting to, as Paul Harvey would have said, hear "the Rest Of The Story"...
LOL, So let him come back up and try to weasel another "prank" out of me. I'll just smile while tapping my now padded pocket and politely remind him that it was he himself who set the going market rate for "on-the-fly-requests,' and any further/additional requests will go for no less, but perhaps still more than the one he just paid for!
His relevance to me ends when he hands me the cash and I deliver... that he "paid me $1000" for something already delivered upon is now wholly irrelevant. "If you'll excuse me sir, I have a dance floor to attend to..."
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His relevance to me ends when he hands me the cash and I deliver... that he "paid me $1000" for something already delivered upon is now wholly irrelevant. "If you'll excuse me sir, I have a dance floor to attend to..."
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What collateral damage might occur if this got stirred up in the rumor mill especially your current client and or any potential future clients? What level of trust would you gain by such? Chances are that nothing would occur but can one risk reputation for self gratification or gratuity of one.
Trust me, I do see your point, and I do appreciate the viewpoint, but like I said previously - this is only problematic if it is assumed/granted upfront as a premise that this action would in fact be "damaging" or somehow "detrimental" to the quality or integrity of the event itself, and it does not follow necessarily that it would be, so I see no need to grant that initial premise as a basis for concern.
Again - in the scenario presented, it was not required by the "briber" that you make this transition in any way that would be necessarily damaging, or speak of incompetence, etc.
Such a switch-up, if done, would be done in a way that still showed a level of respect for the clients and their event. If it couldn't be done in such a way - which given the circumstances suggested I am confident it COULD be - then I wouldn't do it at all.
But nothing that was proposed precludes doing it in a creative or tasteful way so as to not arouse suspicion or offend - let alone breach any kind of trust between vendor and client.
A million dollars? A MILLION DOLLARS? Let me say that again, a million dollars! The bride & groom would have a killer honeymoon - on me!!!
Briar
okay, the situation gets a little more involved with these new facts...
but I still say, it would be hard for most of us to pass up.
especially since the song he requested was one you wouldn't hesitate to play anyway.
perhaps if you asked him to get the B/G's permission, and asked him to donate the money to their honeymoon or favorite charity...
okay, the situation gets a little more involved with these new facts...
but I still say, it would be hard for most of us to pass up.
especially since the song he requested was one you wouldn't hesitate to play anyway.
perhaps if you asked him to get the B/G's permission, and asked him to donate the money to their honeymoon or favorite charity...