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For me, it's got to be the lack of respect by people who show up at a wedding in jeans, t-shirts, ball caps, sneakers etc.

My parents would never let me attend anything like that in less than a shirt and ties.

One of my daughters is getting married in September and we have a line on the invitation that says in bold letters "Proper attire is required!".

And I'm sure some folks just won't get it.

How about you? What do you see that p*sses you off?
 
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I was thinking it was the "I have an ipod so I can DJ my own wedding by proxy" brides. I've had a couple of those lately and it was tepid, trying to give them a great dance party while making them feel like it was their music that created it. Oh, by the way, the bride with the "sucky playlist" filed a review this weekend:

Perfect 5.0
"The easiest & best vendor I dealt with throughout my wedding! So professional & thorough. I would highly reccomend Rick to anyone. Very flexible & attentive to his client's needs!"

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dunlopj said:
For me, it's got to be the lack of respect by people who show up at a wedding in jeans, t-shirts, ball caps, sneakers etc.

My parents would never let me attend anything like that in less than a shirt and ties.

One of my daughters is getting married in September and we have a line on the invitation that says in bold letters "Proper attire is required!".

And I'm sure some folks just won't get it.

How about you? What do you see that p*sses you off?
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T-Shirt no ball cap no i see nothing wrong with sneakers,
 
Brides who try to outclass their family and guests.
(inviting Fire Hall people to a Country Club wedding)
 
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dunlopj said:
For me, it's got to be the lack of respect by people who show up at a wedding in jeans, t-shirts, ball caps, sneakers etc.
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Times have changed Jim.

I visit the large venue down the street (owned by extended family), and I always wear sneakers and jeans -- and many of the guests do as well.

I don't think it's important anymore for the guests to dress to the max, and I certainly don't like suits and ties. I think the sign of respect, is that you show up.
 
SoftJock Rick said:
Times have changed Jim.

I visit the large venue down the street (owned by extended family), and I always wear sneakers and jeans -- and many of the guests do as well.

I don't think it's important anymore for the guests to dress to the max, and I certainly don't like suits and ties. I think the sign of respect, is that you show up.
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Thank you

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where is it wrote or said you have to dress up
 
The same issue with wakes .. I've gone to a few this year and it seems that too many are showing up to pay respects in clothes you wouldn't put on to go work outside.

I have no issue with jeans and sneakers .. but can't they at least be neat?
 
To me, dressing up is a sign of respect, and a wedding or a wake deserve respect. That casual of dress is just d*mn lazy.
 
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steve149 said:
The same issue with wakes .. I've gone to a few this year and it seems that too many are showing up to pay respects in clothes you wouldn't put on to go work outside.

I have no issue with jeans and sneakers .. but can't they at least be neat?
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It's interesting you mentioned that...

When my Grandma died, after I took care of her for many years -- I show up at the wake with jeans, sneakers, a t-shirt with skull and crossbones (Pirates Unite), with a flannel shirt over top. Doing shots from a flask, and chain smoking in the parking lot.

I don't think she really cared one way or another at that point -- I don't think there is a Heaven, but if there is, and she was looking down, at least she would recognize me, since I was the only one there, who dressed in my normal attire. I paid my respects when she was on the bed dying in front of me -- didn't see any reason to impress those around me at the wake.
 
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SoftJock Rick said:
It's interesting you mentioned that...

When my Grandma died, after I took care of her for many years -- I show up at the wake with jeans, sneakers, a t-shirt with skull and crossbones (Pirates Unite), with a flannel shirt over top. Doing shots from a flask, and chain smoking in the parking lot.

I don't think she really cared one way or another at that point -- I don't think there is a Heaven, but if there is, and she was looking down, at least she would recognize me, since I was the only one there, who dressed in my normal attire. I paid my respects when she was on the bed dying in front of me -- didn't see any reason to impress those around me at the wake.
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I will put on a jacket and tie for every wake I go to and a full suit for a funeral. Always have.
 
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steve149 said:
I will put on a jacket and tie for every wake I go to and a full suit for a funeral. Always have.
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I actually don't go to wakes or funerals anymore -- I find them depressing. I don't go to any since Grandmas. I only have 4 immediate family members left, and I don't care to see them dead. Try sitting on their beds, holding their hands while they take their last breath -- and you'll understand (I've done it 6 times now).

Me showing up in a suit, is not going to bring them back. It's my way of life, and everyone knows how I am -- no need to try to be something different that what I am.
 
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In my culture while growing up, if someone died in the immediate family there was a period of mourning where only Black, Grey, Dark Blue or maybe White was the appropriate clothing to wear and especially at a Funeral. No Reds, Yellows etc. Even festive music was not allowed for weeks in the household.
 
ahoustondj said:
In my culture while growing up, if someone died in the immediate family there was a period of mourning where only Black, Grey, Dark Blue or maybe White was the appropriate clothing to wear and especially at a Funeral. No Reds, Yellows etc. Even festive music was not allowed for weeks in the household.
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I'm half Italian -- we have parties when people die.

I'll go back to my Grandma's example...

I went up to the church up the street for the funeral, then came straight back down to The Farm, so I could be there for the food trays and booze to be delivered -- I didn't even go to the cemetery. No one mourns -- we celebrate their life. Made a few toasts to her, ate and got drunk. The hearse and procession needs to go by The Farm, from the church to the cemetery -- I hoist them a toast when they go by.

So yes, perhaps the culture is different...
 
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There is no right or wrong trend in a wedding
as all weddings are different

its up to the newly weds to decide it NOT the Dj or anyone else


but one main bad thing I have seen:: is a Dj arriving LATE!!!
 
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I'm not so sure it is a "trend", but having kids, under 4 yrs old, as flower girls and ring bearers. 90% of the time they cry, won't do it, throw fits. I get it, it's cute on paper, but when it's time to walk the isle it is almost always a fail. We make sure to ask if they are that young, that they walk with a grandma or grandpa or Anyone that can "help" them. We have seen more brides use children that are <4 a lot more lately.
 
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I always wear a suit and tie and pocket square to my weddings. Actually had a recent bride point it out in her review today:

"We thought he was great! The music was exactly what we wanted. We also received comments on his appearance. It was great that he wore a suit to match the dress of the night. We definitely recommend you guys to anyone for your DJ services."

Granted they got married at a swanky classic hotel off Michigan Avenue in downtown Chicago but stepping it up a notch doesn't take much extra effort.
 
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I bought a spankin new tailored suit just to take my now Wife to her best friends wedding..

My wife just about fell over when i went to pick her up... Her parents didnt recognise me, And her best friend took one look and gave her a big wink..

And lots of looks and grins from the ladies at the wedding.. I love wearing it because it fits so nice.. like it was made for me.. OH yeah, IT WAS
 
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