Weddings Bride Insists on Explicit Lyrics in Song..

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I used to do the disclaimer announcement and play whatever the bride or groom wanted, however after several instances of watching explicit songs make half the people leave the reception while giving me dirty looks, I have decided for my clients that it is a mistake to force their family, friends and children to hear lyrics that shock and offend them, and to make me play them against my better judgment. So the answer is no I will not play that!!!!:sqeek:

P.S. DJCam I went to your website you talk about yourself alot in the third person it makes you sound strange.
 
I wouldn't say anything before playing the Dan Band's "Toatal Eclipse"
The coolest part of the song is the look on the people's faces when he "changes " the words abit!!


If you start jabbering about it before you play it, I wouldn't even bother.

My buddie played a joke on his uncle and new bride.
We had the DJ play Adam Sandlers "At a Medium Pace" for a slow dance for them. They never saw it coming. His uncle still laughs about that one.
 
Precisionpower said:
I wouldn't say anything before playing the Dan Band's "Toatal Eclipse"
The coolest part of the song is the look on the people's faces when he "changes " the words abit!!


If you start jabbering about it before you play it, I wouldn't even bother.

My buddie played a joke on his uncle and new bride.
We had the DJ play Adam Sandlers "At a Medium Pace" for a slow dance for them. They never saw it coming. His uncle still laughs about that one.
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I would have been soooo mad. Then again I don't think Adam Sandler is all that funny anyway. That is why we are not going to allow requests.

Mike
 
Esoteric said:
I would have been soooo mad. Then again I don't think Adam Sandler is all that funny anyway. That is why we are not going to allow requests.

Mike
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It was at a very small gathering. Uncle mike is a lil different so to speak,
he would have done it to one of us had he thought of it first!
 
Last weekend I played Smokey - Who's Alice. I had about a dozen requests for it one being from the bride. When she asked for it I asked her if she ever heard it before and does she know the lyrics. She said yes and if I would play it next she would be the first one dancing.

She kept her word and had lots of company it packed the dance floor.

I generally try to avoid explicit lyrics but I also don't tell people what they want. I also respect those of you who won't
 
When I accept events with couples, they are asked to keep the explicit songs for the last hour.

Everyone is OK with this requirment. My contract also says "No hardcore rap or heavy metal", and that "All requests must be either a hit song or something all your guests will want to dance to."

in the meeting, everything is explained in detail. Knock on wood, so far so good!

(I love playing "Hypnotize" by Notorious B.I.G. for B/G in the last hour of a reception that had me playing Sinatra during dinner. There is a sort of cosmic equilibrium from these events)
 
my contract doesn't say anything about what I won't play. It hardly has ever been an issue, so I see no need to put it in there. While I always avoid playing songs with explicit lyrics simply because I know most wedding guests will want it that way, if a paying customer requests a song, i'm playing that song. If they ask about explicit lyrics, I'll tell them that i typically play the edited versions...99.9% of the people that are asking are happy with that.
While i probably would turn down an event where they wanted an abundance of unedited explicit lyric songs, one song never killed anybody. After advising them of the pitfalls, I would do what they wanted.

I once had a groom come up to me and say i should stop playing the edited versions. I said, you are the boss, but look at your mother sitting over there....do you really think she wants to hear that? If you really don't care, i'll play it....he said, yeah you are right, it really doesn't matter that much.

That was the only time anything like that has come up.

Like Jeff, I respect other's decisions to not play them, I just don't think in most instances it's that big of a deal if that's what they really want.
 
Too bad we are even put in this position, and why are songs with explicit lyrics even necessary? This is why I like the oldies, just one version and it's clean.
The problem with explicit versions, even late in the evening, is there is bound to be a few in the room that will be offended. I really want no part of it. Guess it depends how bad you need the work.
 
Regardless..

Of what *a* contract says, it is the bride's day. I do not have a clause for swearing..I just thought it was auto fuc*ing matic! :sqbiggrin:

I am tempted to call the bride's mom, whom paid for this. yes, they paid 2 weeks ago :) And just to forewarn her that yes not only do I plan on playing it at around 11 ish, but to make this annoucement..

*Ladies and Gentlemen, the next song is specifically requested by Carrie, our bride, it does have language which will or may offend. This is what she wanted, thanks!*..

It has fuc* in it 4 times, and sh** in it 1 times..It's 2:35 song...The last 30 seconds, nothing so I will seque the fu** out of it! :)
 
Tim : Nope. Would not play it.

I'm a mobile DISK JOCKEY not a mobile MUSICAL WHORE. Just 'cause I'm being paid does not mean I have to forfeit any moral standards I have. They DO NOT own me.

She would be told flat out, politely, but in no uncertain terms, that it is totally not acceptable on my time, on my watch, ever.
 
Yep..

I'm going to call her tomorrow and talk to her. In my 25 year career, I've never played a song with an explicit lyric in it, not gonna start now..

I have to live with the reporcutions (sp), they live in Georgia, family and friends live here..

If this were at a less thsan desireable hall, I may consider, also where it's at..Nope.
 
Each one of us has to make many decisions on how we want to run our business and what image we are trying to project.

I'm not a prude by any means but I tell clients upfront that 99% of our current music is radio-edits. If they don't like that, then they are free to choose someone else.
 
DJ Zac said:
Chuck - Care to share? Thanks! :sqbiggrin:
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We only play songs with suggestive lyrics when granted permission by you. Our company policy precludes us from playing overtly explicit lyrics. We believe our reputation and your party is enhanced by this policy. Please initial that you understand our policy. ____

And, like Kirby, I am not a prude. I watch adult films. I tell X Rated Jokes. I can cuss like a sailor.... but my business is handled differently.
 
I too have played "Alice" at weddings there are two versions of the same song one says Who the F is Alice the other says Who the hell is alice, I always play the second version!
 
AlbanyAMS said:
She is giving me permission...I have make a call tomorrow to tell her I will not be playing it..
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I get that Tim. But the other part of what I posted says I don't play overtly explicit lyrics. Doesn't matter if she gives me permission. If she doesn't like my terms than she is 100% free to hire another DJ. :sqbiggrin: My feeling will not be hurt.
 
I just did a pre-wedding planning meeting with a client who wanted her enterance music to be crazy bitch!! LOL Thank god I talked her out of it! I am an aquaintance of the groom and his family would have been on the floor passed out. as a side note the bride does not seem to be the classiest woman I have ever met!! Thank God I was able to talk her out of it!! I am definitly not opposed to playing some lyrics with mature language but it has to be kept to a minimum at events like these. Part of my problem is I play three bars during the week so I am used to hearing it!! But I always steer clear of it at private events unless it is requested. I will advise of bad decisions but if the bride and groom want it they will get it. Of course I will be throwing in a little "special request going out to our lovely bride and groom"
 
Sometimes I have to ask myself, what the hell are these brides thinking these days?

I would make the warning announcement, invite the bride to come up to push play and then I would leave the room to take a bathroom break.
 
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