Weddings Bride Insists on Explicit Lyrics in Song..

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Nov 5, 2006
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Going through the planning and the bride insists on me playing a song *Total eclipse of the heart* by the Dan Band. Live version ..It's the f word all over it. It's 2:45 sec..

My reception ends at 11:30, she wants it played at 11...

Even though I told her I would have to out a disclaimer before I played it, I still don't feel comfortable playing it..

WWYD??
 
AlbanyAMS said:
This Friday night, booked over a year ago..
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This is why I have an actual "No explicit language" clause IN my contract. And they must initial the clause.
 
If that is what the customer wants that is what the customer gets.
 
It's her day. Play the song, but make an announcement first. A few weeks ago, I did a wedding where one of the groomsmen brought "The Man Song" from the movie Orgasmo. I made an announcement before it, folks cheered when it started. At a wedding earlier this month, I played "Always Look on the Bright Side of Life" from the movie The Life of Brian...did that as the last song as a surprise to the bride and groom, who had mentioned that they'd like to hear it at some time in the evening. It has the "S" word in it. No biggie.
 
I would definitely lead up to it with something like, "this next song is by special request of the bride." That way when people start getting upset, they know who to get upset at.
 
Had a reception this year where B&G wanted a song played for the garter removal and toss that was explicit. Akon - I Wanna F@%$ You. I had to make an announcement to get all the kids and offend-able adults outside before it could be played. Still I heard gasps and "Did You hear that" comments. I ask them several times if they were sure, they said yes, yes yes, they both had the song as their ring tone on their cellphone when the other one called.
 
I had to play Buckcherry's "Crazy Bitch" a few weeks ago for a wedding. It was the grooms request to the bride. Even though I played the edited version, the bride still asked me to cut it off. Once again...I made the announcement that it was from the groom.
 
MBM said:
Had a reception this year where B&G wanted a song played for the garter removal and toss that was explicit. Akon - I Wanna F@%$ You. I had to make an announcement to get all the kids and offend-able adults outside before it could be played. Still I heard gasps and "Did You hear that" comments. I ask them several times if they were sure, they said yes, yes yes, they both had the song as their ring tone on their cellphone when the other one called.
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The radio edit ("I Wanna Love You") wasn't naughty enough?
 
I had forgotten about one, also had a MOG request a 50 Cent song for her son the groom, don't remember which one now, but very dirty version, I ask her several times if she was very sure. It was later in the evening, but yeah I played it only after stopping between songs and making an announcement that the MOG requested this song for the Groom, I played it and he went crazy dancing to it. I did hear a couple of comments from other guest saying something like " I can't believe the DJ played a song like that" during the song, so I made another announcement after the song was over. The MOG was the signing party on the contract for that reception, so it was her call. I can definitely understand why many would just say no, but I guess the best solution is just not have it, and not take music from the guests to play.
 
I would not any any circumstances play any music with explicit lyrics.
It is tasteless and totally necessary.
Matters such as these should be carefully discussed at the pre-event client meeting.
I carefully explain every detail in my contract to the client.
My contract is in no way a negotiable device.

Here is the clause from my contract "It is mutually agreed and understood, that Steve Cie Entertainment has sole discretion to not play music due to objectionable material lyrics,or intent."

Your reputation as an entertainer is the most important thing you have.

I would turn down the job before damaging my reputation.

We are not the morality police, but we are not tasteless slobs either!
 
Not being a DJ, I can't say I have to put up with this particular situation, but I am sure that I would not play it either. But I would also make it clear before hand what the rules were.

Mike
 
DJ J Mac said:
I would definitely lead up to it with something like, "this next song is by special request of the bride." That way when people start getting upset, they know who to get upset at.
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Nope, they'd still be upsaet at you for playing it.

Chuck, please send me your wording for the explicit language clause.

I'd tell her, sorry, if you want that song played you'll have to play it in your car.
 
Wow many of you wouldn't plat it. Crazy.

What the client want is what the client gets.

While it is not my normal practice to play uncut songs at weddings if a Client want me to play them I will without question. I do thell the client that I will make a few disclaimers prior to uncut songs being played.

I once did a weddin that was uncat hard core rap all night. I thought Grandma was going to pass out.
 
DJ Cam said:
I once did a weddin that was uncat hard core rap all night. I thought Grandma was going to pass out.
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I will uncover this in the interview when I talk about music.

When these things come up I reference the two rules to a succesful reception; 1. Marry the one you love and 2. Be a good host. I ask if playing only what they want or playing uncut lyrics is being a good host.

If they don't care about their guests, they can keep on looking; there are plenty of bottom feeders that will fulfill that dream for them.
 
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