This Saturdays wedding is going to be a hot mess.
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You missed what I said. The first event isn't to end until 4:30 which is the same time the reception is to start. So how can it start on time. We won't be able to load in until the people from the first event are out of the room.
I said my first issue was with how the venue is treating this couple and their guests. It's wrong and they need to be punished which probably nothing will happen. Something would happen if it was my wedding. If I had to I would go to the news media and tell them what happened.
my one and only gay wedding they complained - i was setting up 'in the way of pictures'...so I stopped..then they complained I was rushing to setup to get ready on time.
Moving someplace else for pictures? Communicating all this up front? Nah.
It was all my fault for setting up the only place the venue permits...
While this can happen at any wedding, and anyone can be a self centered bridezilla...i'm not as enthused about doing another gay wedding because of this. IN a decade of hetero weddings never had a bridezilla (one was close though..pregnant so we'll blame the hormones)
So you'll be the loser in this.
Moving someplace else for pictures? Communicating all this up front? Nah.
It was all my fault for setting up the only place the venue permits...
While this can happen at any wedding, and anyone can be a self centered bridezilla...i'm not as enthused about doing another gay wedding because of this. IN a decade of hetero weddings never had a bridezilla (one was close though..pregnant so we'll blame the hormones)
So you'll be the loser in this.
How can they move the time a week ahead of time?
The invitations, wtih times, went out what, 6, 8 weeks ago?
Why the time change?
The invitations, wtih times, went out what, 6, 8 weeks ago?
Why the time change?
Mix you are also missing something. None of this is any of your problem
And YOU missed what several other have TRIED to explain.
There is an hour of cocktails in another room.
You will need to (try to) load in while the other event is cleaning up...
so there will probably be another DJ loading out...
and the wait staff will be clearing tables and putting out new place settings.
It will make things different, it will be confusing, people will be getting in other people's way...
but you can make it work.
As for the venue pissing off the clients, don't sweat it. You have your issues, they will have theirs.
If anything, the screw up with the venue will distract them from any problems you may be having.
I had a venue that tried to do two events in one day. THEY only had one room,
so me, my gear, and all of the guests were standing in the parking lot until they were ready.
(they were offering free drinks to the guests, while they waited in 90-degree heat)
And it happened more than once.
I, too, have venues nearby that pull some pretty crazy sh*t.
But they are still in business, and not hurting for bookings.
I seriously doubt there will be another room for the cocktail hour. This place is very busy and I would say all the rooms will be used that day with different events. I get that there is nothing we can do about this situation. I just don't want people making us out to be the bad guys.
Seriously doubt?
If this were my wedding, I would have known if cocktails were in a separate room BEFORE I booked it.
And I would have known if I was responsible for music for cocktails.
And there IS something you can do about it.
Contact the client and let them know.
It may add to their ever-growing stress level.....but it WILL prevent YOU from being the bad guy.
How about you call the venue and find out rather than assume where the cocktail hour is? How about telling the client you need to charge extra to get additional help to set up faster? That will definitely make the client have an issue with the venue (I did this at this venue when I had the issue, and they moved the party by half an hour after the client called furiously complaining about the situation they put her in... 30 min is better than nothing). Bottom line... as long as the clients understand your limitations and what you can and cant do within the time and situation given... you shouldn't worry about blame.
We're working this event together even though he's the DJ doing the event. I just don't want us looking bad because of the venue's screw up.
As others have mentioned, a few phone calls go a long way.
For quick set ups, planning can help. As taso mentioned, having everything ready to go make a big difference.
There is a hotel downtown that the weddings are on the bottom floor of a really cool building, but there are a bunch of stores there that don't close until 5. So, you can't set up until then and weddings start at 6.
I simply have everything on my cart ready to go so as the clock strikes 5, we are setting up. I understand your situation is different but you can still have everything ready right outside. 2 people setting up sound shouldn't take long at all. Now, you can make it your fault of you don't start bringing equipment in and be ready to go the moment you are able.
For quick set ups, planning can help. As taso mentioned, having everything ready to go make a big difference.
There is a hotel downtown that the weddings are on the bottom floor of a really cool building, but there are a bunch of stores there that don't close until 5. So, you can't set up until then and weddings start at 6.
I simply have everything on my cart ready to go so as the clock strikes 5, we are setting up. I understand your situation is different but you can still have everything ready right outside. 2 people setting up sound shouldn't take long at all. Now, you can make it your fault of you don't start bringing equipment in and be ready to go the moment you are able.
Great suggestion to have the tops on the cart with the controller ready to roll and have the subs outside the van as well ready to go. The other smaller stuff is nothing.
How does this affect you it's not even your gig
It's best to have everything in and close as possible to the room like I suggested earlier. The last thing you want is to have to move a van or be running in or out the bulding especially if there might be another DJ leaving.
That may be tough... depends on if its a main floor room, or if an elevator/stairs are required for rooms on the second floor. Mix do you know which room you are in yet?
My apologies. You said the same thing I did, way before I did.
Why is he using your equipment? It's like you guys pool your resources together to do a party. What if you blow a speaker , or other equipment breaks when he is the one getting paid for the gig?
There's only one room in this place that can accommodate that many people. I did an event in that room once. It was for my ex girlfriends sisters 60th birthday celebration. You can load in through a side door that puts you right in the room. The good thing is that room has a stage. I don't know if the couple will be up there or we can be up there.
Macho, Can you answer this? Very interested in how you would handle this kind of situation.